The Monkeys who got whart they wanted

 Todya is not a very particular Landmark Day ..its just a day i felt like writing . As I cross the 40s and face a kind of confusing landscape..I look at our generation, my generatiuon with a different set of eyes . My generation , the half confused the half fearful generation who made all the mistakes trying to balance the great expectations. What struck me partticular was the state of marriage in that generation. Almost none of the men are even remotely happy and quite a few martriages are either broken or are trudgiong on. What exactly was the mating game and its success parameters of our generation? Esp Men..

We had moved out of our small towns and become reasonably successfull. We were supposedly more liberal and modern than our fathers. we were feminists , progressive and 'better'. We didnt want to put our partners thru whhat our fathers had put our mothers through. Since we could crack C++ we could crack life. Then we met a set of women who also had moved from small town and were well groomed and hot. In comparisions to the girls in our families these were the new progressive gakls who wore tights and knew the difference between lavender and purple. They were few and there was a rush for the goods at the top. We changed, modified, fought within ourselves to get these women . And these new women felt like a trophy. Especially when we could see that they were the perfect mix of tradition and modern we always looked for. Marriages happened with the man on the backfoot and these rare girls dicatting terms whoich didnt feel so bad. Aftyer all hadnt we won the trophies. We felt top of the world. My generations success stories all ended up with these noveu modern ultra chick and sniggered at the rest of us who had married 'normal'plain jane girls..

Yet as time went by these trophy wives turned into a liabilty. Some were sluts .some lazy and some lazy sluts. The fact that they earned at sometime or are earning now made all perks of marriage to men ..unavailable. Sex was absent, a warm meal was a dream. the children were left to nannies and most men unable to reconcile the betrayal turned to wine, smoke and fitness overdrive..

Its a sad reality that today they are ruing the same success that they were enamoured of. Todays generation esp men is wiser..having expieranced women in all their forms early. They dont let the miniskirt sway theor opinion. They have seen many unlike my generation...hopefully they wont make the same mistakes ..meri wali waisi nahin ,,kisi din ye tamasha muskuraa kar hum bhi dekhenge

The beauty of a place

aMemory is a fascinating and complex cognitive process that plays a fundamental role in our daily lives. One intriguing aspect of memory is its strong connection with locations. The link between memory and locations, often referred to as "spatial memory," is an essential element of human cognition. In this essay, we will explore the various ways in which memory and locations are interconnected.

1. Environmental Cues and Memory Recall: One of the most direct linkages between memory and locations is the way our brain associates memories with specific places or environments. When we experience an event or learn something new in a particular location, our brain creates associations between the memory and the sensory cues from that location, such as visual, auditory, or olfactory cues. When we return to that location, the environmental cues can trigger the recall of the associated memory. This phenomenon is known as context-dependent memory and has practical applications, such as using the location of study to help recall information during exams.

2. Wayfinding and Spatial Memory: Spatial memory is crucial for navigation and wayfinding. It enables us to remember routes, landmarks, and locations, facilitating our ability to navigate through our environment. For instance, when you visit a new city and explore its streets, your brain forms a mental map of the area, incorporating landmarks and routes. This spatial memory helps you find your way around and even remember where specific shops or attractions are located.

3. The Method of Loci: The method of loci is a mnemonic technique that capitalizes on the strong link between memory and locations. It involves associating items or information with specific locations or landmarks in a familiar place, like your home. When you need to recall the information, you mentally revisit these locations, triggering the associated memories.

4. Emotional Associations: Locations can also be strongly linked to emotional memories. For example, a childhood home may evoke a sense of nostalgia and recall many emotional memories from that period of one's life. Similarly, places associated with significant life events, like a wedding venue or the spot where someone proposed, can trigger vivid emotional memories.

5. Alzheimer's Disease and Spatial Memory Decline: Conversely, the loss of spatial memory is a common symptom in individuals with Alzheimer's disease. Patients may struggle to recognize familiar places, become disoriented in their own homes, or lose the ability to navigate effectively. This decline in spatial memory highlights the profound impact that location has on memory and cognition.

6. Digital Technology and Spatial Memory: In the age of smartphones and navigation apps, the way we interact with locations has evolved. We now rely on digital tools for navigation, which can impact our spatial memory. People may remember fewer routes or landmarks since they rely on devices to navigate for them.

In conclusion, the linkages between memory and locations are multifaceted and integral to our daily lives. Our brains naturally associate memories with the locations where they were formed, and this connection influences our ability to recall information, navigate our surroundings, and even shape our emotional experiences. Understanding this relationship is not only fascinating from a cognitive perspective but also has practical implications for improving memory and optimizing the way we interact with our environment. The beauty of Mumbai was something I truly belived i. It was linked to a a series of memories..travels on locals, walks on the marine drive , small cafes of samovar and the lilting melodies of 'rim jhim giire sawan ..' almost echoing through the beacground slideshow. Mumbai meant a lot of things ..especially south mumbai . Visits to Jahangir, the kala ghoda and churchills are etched in a sort of 'good feel'. I felt home, warm ..happy. But as things went by the memories faded away to give in to memories of Delhi...the centrral and south delhi open vistas the walks into the bylanes of chandni chowk and all the food tasting etc in and out ...Delhi filled in the void of mumbai memories ..the triveni and the lota kind of expanded the idea of what could be ...gradually delhi filled in my heart and mind..the roads, the traffic , the metro..it was all I wanted to be happy...And then again I have moved on . In search of maybe a better place to place my meories