Todya is not a very particular Landmark Day ..its just a day i felt like writing . As I cross the 40s and face a kind of confusing landscape..I look at our generation, my generatiuon with a different set of eyes . My generation , the half confused the half fearful generation who made all the mistakes trying to balance the great expectations. What struck me partticular was the state of marriage in that generation. Almost none of the men are even remotely happy and quite a few martriages are either broken or are trudgiong on. What exactly was the mating game and its success parameters of our generation? Esp Men..
We had moved out of our small towns and become reasonably successfull. We were supposedly more liberal and modern than our fathers. we were feminists , progressive and 'better'. We didnt want to put our partners thru whhat our fathers had put our mothers through. Since we could crack C++ we could crack life. Then we met a set of women who also had moved from small town and were well groomed and hot. In comparisions to the girls in our families these were the new progressive gakls who wore tights and knew the difference between lavender and purple. They were few and there was a rush for the goods at the top. We changed, modified, fought within ourselves to get these women . And these new women felt like a trophy. Especially when we could see that they were the perfect mix of tradition and modern we always looked for. Marriages happened with the man on the backfoot and these rare girls dicatting terms whoich didnt feel so bad. Aftyer all hadnt we won the trophies. We felt top of the world. My generations success stories all ended up with these noveu modern ultra chick and sniggered at the rest of us who had married 'normal'plain jane girls..
Yet as time went by these trophy wives turned into a liabilty. Some were sluts .some lazy and some lazy sluts. The fact that they earned at sometime or are earning now made all perks of marriage to men ..unavailable. Sex was absent, a warm meal was a dream. the children were left to nannies and most men unable to reconcile the betrayal turned to wine, smoke and fitness overdrive..
Its a sad reality that today they are ruing the same success that they were enamoured of. Todays generation esp men is wiser..having expieranced women in all their forms early. They dont let the miniskirt sway theor opinion. They have seen many unlike my generation...hopefully they wont make the same mistakes ..meri wali waisi nahin ,,kisi din ye tamasha muskuraa kar hum bhi dekhenge
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