Fine. Cool.Point taken.
So before a decision is taken I have to be in compromise mode ?
The issue got me thinking about this almost pathological mode of "compromise" we Indians live in. Yes ..we are always ready for "compromise"! We are always ready with our "truce proposals". And the best part is that we are never demanding and we feel happy about it. We feel so proud of this ability that we flaunt it to the world.
The flip side is that we never demand wat we want..we demand a compromise. And we do get results as expected.
We never demand good quality roads..we demand a compromise with potholes. We never demand a good quality governance..we get a coalition hotch potch. We dont demand quality food and hence we get un-hygenic dish dash..
The saddest part is that when it comes to ourselves we too demand nothing . We ask for a compromise. With the disastrous results that we are half baked individuals. We do not know weather to be an excellent brother, father, husband or individual. We end up being a pot pourri of confused emotions and disastrous priorities.
The ironic part is that demanding quality and getting quality is so much reachable. We have just havent had the enuf guts to try it. Yes there will be a fight at the start and its that fight that we are taught to avoid. We have lost the guts to fight for something we trust will give quality.
I have had many an opportunities where I did try in my small way to try out this theory of mine . and it has wrked out fine...and i was surprised by the ease with which it happened.
Just to mention one small incident.
Getting a four wheeler driving license is considered a compromise with morals to pay a bribe in many parts of India. And this was the first part of the issue. I had no four wheeler driving license and I tried getting one in Kerala. (of all places !!). So I thought..lets try to take the straight way .
I went to the RT office and gave the test in front of a computer..passed. Paid the required 150 rupees..as fees. Learnt driving and gave it the legitimate way. Passed. Got my DL.
where was the compromise that we are talking of..?
Why are we ready for a compromise when there isnt actually any need for one?
Our education system is another. We compromise with bad teaching because we never demand quality. IIT was an eye opener in this regards.
The teachers were on average good but then the students were so used to compromise that they didnt prod them . But ask the right questions and the teachers were a revealation. They would respond with equal fervour . And in case of bad teaching there is always youtube and wikipedia to refer..! So why dont you demand quality teaching? why do u compromise before even testing the waters?
I love trekking and mountaineering. And I was told that "yaar..aaj kal time nahin milta"..Frankly I have had no issue with time as far as my hobbies are concerned. I have almost trekked , cycled , rafted every year of my life.
"yaar..aaj kal log acche nahin hain.."..I had no issues with them at all. Infact despite a few pit falls almost all of my closest freinds..classmates, IIT guys, relations ,freinds have been awesome people. Where are the trecherous people I had heard of?
Yes , I have had to remove unwanted priorities..Yes I have had to be straight and cut out frills , yes, I had to avoid a few people and yes I had to let go a few things . But in the end I have ended with quality people, time and material things. Its possible .
Why do we decide on giving up and living with compromises when there is absolutely no need?